The Skepbitch

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Ashes to Ashes, Cult to Cult

The dream of polygamyI have perused two excellent resources on polygamy, the Mormon Curtain, an Ex-Mormon site, and the book God’s Brothel, but when I was in Salt Lake City, very few people knew much about it. The Mormons won’t talk about it, and the non-Mormons could only share anecdotes, such as, “The women wear old-fashioned clothes, sound old-fashioned, and tie their long hair back,” and, “The plural wives only leave the house for groceries, and then buy staples such as flour or milk. They do all their own cooking.”

The reality of polygamyHowever, a lady at the SLC Information Center ripped out a map and pointed out the cities and towns where polygamy is still commonly practised. “Even if you go there, it’s unlikely that you’ll see anything,” she explained. “The polygamists are very private, and very protective. Watch Lifting the Veil on Polygamy,” she suggested. “Most of that’s pretty accurate.” And so I did.

Polygamous familyThe first hour of the video features a compelling series of impassioned interviews with former fundamentalist Mormons. It is completely absorbing to hear of their plight; their experiences of arranged marriages, teenage weddings, numerous pregnancies, abandonment, ostracism, ongoing physical and mental abuse, and the curious doctrine and irrational beliefs of the Latter Day Saints.

The wedding cake of polygamyLifting the Veil on Polygamy is a well-researched, insightful documentary.

That is…

…until it becomes an indoctrination video in itself…

During the last twenty minutes of the presentation, I knew that something was up. Suddenly, we hear the twinkling piano music of pathos, and the teary-eyed speakers speak of their conversion from fundamental mormonism to orthodox christianity. The information ends, and the proselytizing begins.

There were religious epiphanies aplenty, they “literally” heard the voice of god, and new ‘friends’ recruited them showed them the way. Homage to the book of mormon became homage to the bible. Reverence for Joseph Smith became reverence for Jesus. Swinging for exaltation became salvation for sinning.

Escape PolygamyThe video’s covert religious message isn’t so surprising when one learns that the video was created by Living Hope Ministries. This ministry performs an important service, providing materials and producing videos that inform the public about the abuses and misinformation that occurs within The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints. Yet, the ministry also “shares bible truths” so that ”Latter Day Saints may come to a saving knowledge of the biblical Jesus Christ.” The ministry is just another competing faith seeking converts in mormon-soaked Utah.

As earnest as they are, this still seems predatorial…

As for the interviewees, they are intelligent and articulate people. They are admirable, and extremely strong. Under manipulative and oppressive circumstances they managed to employ critical thinking to overcome their socialization. These are true skeptics…

…but they aren’t skeptical enough.

 They have forsaken one cult for another. They have swapped heroin for methadone…

World religions are often half-way houses for people recovering from cults. Christianity seems a comforting, loving yet somehow familiar alternative to the firmer mind control of Scientology, Jehovah’s Witnesses, and Mormonism.

The interviewees eyes turned red and wet as they expressed their relief at escaping polygamy. Tears welled up in my eyes too. All I could think was - you didn’t need another religion to catch your fall. All you needed was your own mind.

June 3, 2008 - Posted by skepbitch | Skepticism, religion | , , , , , , | 2 Comments

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  1. The farce of this whole polygamy thing blows me away, it just opens a whole parcel of beliefs which have not a basis in fact, but are seen as absolute truth.

    Marriage is not merely the title for the human pair bond. Marriage is a legal entity, hence the fight for gay marriage. Obviously, two homosexuals can live together. It is the legal contractual sharing of property that defines marriage. These people are NOT polygamous because the state does not recognize their marriages. They are polyamorous. If you believe the Kinsey report, most of us our polyamorous at some point, so its not really fair to judge them for their polygamy. IF IT OCCURS BETWEEN CONSENTING ADULTS ITS NO ONE’S BUSINESS. But of course, what about the children…

    I hear a lot of concern about the teenage weddings. The marriage of 14 yo to anyone over the age of 14 is legal in many states with parental consent. Also in many states a 14 can get an abortion without parental consent. So, 14 year old can get married, or conversely, have sex and get pregnant AND get an abortion. All of these things are legal. But the same 14 having sex with a married man is wrong. Why? Either a 14 yo can consent or they can’t. The problem is, when you start saying that 14 yo are REAL citizens with real rights you take the biggest plank from tyrannical do-gooders: “the children will be corrupted”

    Don’t get me wrong I think the men running this compound were/are swine, and I agree with your statement that the victims have exchanged a small unpopular cult for a large popular one, and that they indeed are victims. But I find the media using puritanical patriarchal perspectives to judge puritanical patriarchs to be so flippin’ hypocritical.

    Comment by truthwalker | June 5, 2008 | Reply

  2. Kinsey’s research is often criticized today, and he was heavily biased himself.

    I agree that they are more polyamorous in the eyes of the law – although I doubt that in all of the marriages, all of the women ‘love’ their “sister wives”. Polyamoury would be too honest.

    Yes…those poor fucking children. Socially retarded…

    I agree that marriage is a legal entity, but it’s also a variable, regional law. In Australia, ‘common law’ or defacto marriages are recognized by law. If you live together (over a legally set time frame), you are legally bound to that person to fairly distribute any shared property, at the time of complete separation.

    I think modern polygamy is a case of people living as they want to, and rationalizing their behavior by incorporating it into their system of belief. It helps if you’re your own ‘god’.

    I think the public get a kick out of the pervy sex they think underpins this. Do they have group sex? Is there hot lesbian sex?

    For god’s sake…take a look at those women! They’re straight, they’re zombies…

    You’re right – morals/ethics are personal, and of their own time. If polygamy wasn’t performed in such an abusive way, these dudes would be the envy of many men, and women – there must be equality in polygamy! ;)

    So many people live under the radar in this country – from the homeless, to the illegal/undocumented, to those socialized into these cults.

    Comment by skepbitch | June 5, 2008 | Reply


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